Confidence & Self Esteem
Why do people lack confidence and self esteem?
Confidence and self esteem issues start young.
Natural confidence is something we’re born with; newborn babies express their feelings easily and are totally comfortable being themselves. We often see young children who love to “perform” without inhibitions, and wish that we could feel so comfortable in our own skin.
Poor confidence, lack of self-worth and inhibitions are learned.
Unfortunately for most people, our natural confidence skills are stifled at a young age, and although they are never truly lost, they remain hidden without good therapy.
“Give me the child until he is seven and I’ll give you the man” – St. Francis Xavier
Up to the age of 5-6 our minds are like sponges soaking up all the information from the world around us; learning critical skills such as walking, talking, reading, writing, relationship patterns and how to behave in certain situations. We’re influenced by our parents, teachers, family, friends, story books, TV and society. This is a critical time for laying down the foundations to our personality and understanding our expectations of the world and what we believe others think about of us.
It is at this time we form our ‘confidence programme’ – and this programme affects how loved, deserving, successful and confident we feel for the rest of our lives. With the correct foundations for confidence and self-esteem learned in childhood, it’s far easier to be naturally confident as an adult.
The problem of lacking in confidence starts usually during your childhood years, you picked up an ‘incorrect’ message that you weren’t good enough; perhaps you didn’t deserve the good things in life.
Confidence problems are either learned by hearing the same messages over and over again or repeating the same behaviours until they become a habit, or as the result of a specific incident. The reasons behind confidence issues are vast; for example you could have been singled out in school by a teacher, maybe even bullied, or perhaps your parents thought by being tough on you it would help to make you more resilient. Even the most seemingly innocent incidents can cause a problem, such as a one-off remark or something on the TV.
These messages get imprinted deep within your mind and your inner talk constantly reinforces these inappropriate thoughts, ‘I’m not good enough’ ‘I can’t possibly do that’ – sound familiar?
How can hypnosis improve your confidence and self-esteem?
Hypnosis can take the client back to the initial root cause of the problem and with sophisticated therapy techniques, events can be revisited with adult eyes, reprocessed and resolved to update inappropriate thoughts, feelings and behaviours that are no longer serving you.
Once the root cause of the problem has been addressed, therapy can be applied to give your mind a new gateway to confident thought processes. With the correct programme for confidence fixed in your mind, embracing opportunity and enjoying life becomes second nature.
Life is too short to let fear hold you back. My programme has helped many people just like you, we all deserve to live the very best life possible and we all deserve to enjoy life and to feel good about ourselves. Life doesn’t need to feel uncomfortable and difficult so don’t put it off any longer, invest in your future and put your confidence and self esteem problems behind you once and for all.
If you are suffering stress or anxiety, call me to see how my program can help you.